By a standard evolving over the past 30 years, the dissolution of love or romantic relationships is almost by necessity an ugly business. Possession, evolution, and time( to name a few) induce rifts, rifts that are answered with anger , frustration, despondency, and rage. These things exist in Kar-Wai films as well but it’s what they end up saying, how they say it that differs. Wong Kar-wai sets love to a Kahlil Gibran mood, tone, and understanding which allows for the shifting , inconsistent, wave like nature of love. It's important to note here that I feel (like I sense that he may feel) that love is not particularly constant, in fact too many times I feel as though that consistency has become if not synonymous, a word commonly and often associated with love. My feeling is that love is the exact opposite of this and that what we refer to now as love is the result of a confusion of the way that we navigate the waters, the waves of love with the ocean itself. It’s a very patriarchal domineering approach. So that if something goes wrong if the wave doesn't crash in the direction we expected it to, if it doesn't flow or guide us to shore in the way that we desire, if it doesn't provide the sustenance WE feel WE need... Then something, or someone has to be blamed. We conquer the seas we dont give into it.